A friend of mine wrote to me about how crazy these times are. He said that the country is at war with the police. I don’t see it quite that way. To me it feels more like a civil war. People seem unable to see any perspective than their own and are unwilling to try. Whatever side they are on, they believe they are right and the other is wrong. What’s worse, we seem to be resigned to the settling it with violence.
My son was involved in a nasty altercation with a fraternity on campus during his freshman year. All of the young men involved were white and even then, three years ago, we discussed the fact that the outcome of that situation could well have been different if Evan had been black.
Like it or not, the truth is that there is a different standard for black men than white men. We have to acknowledge that reality before we can get anywhere. It’s not politically correct, but it’s truth.
There are bad police. White and Black. There are bad teachers. White and Black. There are bad people. White and Black. There are a LOT of stupid people.White and Black.
But most people are good. Black and White.
The good people have GOT to start calling out the bad. We have got to stop looking the other way when we see hateful or disrespectful behavior. We have to speak up when we hear adults disparaging police (or teachers, or other authority figures) with blanket, generalized accusations. ESPECIALLY when children are present.
As long as we remain silent, we are complicit.